I like to think that in 30 years on this earth, that I am evolving a rapid rate when it comes to interpersonal communication and personal growth. One area that I think I have grown up a lot in is the “dating” area, I used to be a terrible dater mainly because I had no awareness of my surroundings.
Evolving by definition is “develop gradually, especially from a simple to a more complex form”, when I started dating I was only 16 years, just a nice innocent jewish boy trying to figure $hit out.
I remember going to the movies as that hyper horny 16 year old and spilling coke soda all over my date, I didn’t know weather to get napkins out and rub her down or just sit there and look at her as she figured out what do with all coke all over her shirt?? Still to this day, there is nothing in the book that prepares a guy for that specific situation. I ended up just chucking napkins at her, while just hoping for the best. She smelled really good after the spill, that’s all I remember about that.
Overall, I had no clue what I was doing. I did though get past the step 1 though which was talking to some some random female from the local YMCA into accepting a free ticket to a movie to see Spiderman. I did this by offering free some free popcorn and a free extra large pepsi, the other half obviously ended all over here but it was still “FREE”. Who doesn’t like FREE?
I remember the goals of that night like it was yesterday. The original goal was to have sex some where even if it was in a dark alley. I started then settling for making out but both of those goals didn’t happen. The next goal was just a kiss then when that didn’t happen the primary goal changed to just a long stare-down and then when that didn’t happen the goal was just to not annoy anyone in the movie theater by spilling coke on them. Overall, none of the tangible goals of that night were reached as I spilled coke on a couple more random people but it will still go down as a successful night in my book.
Here are the six things I try to practice:
(A) Always Pay: Doesn’t matter the situation, the guy always has to pay even if the lady wants to pay you got shove her money away and just pay.
(B) Stay The Heck Off Cell Phones: Texting, calling if you don’t have time for the person then don’t be there
(C) Don’t talk about the past: This is key nobody likes hear
(D) No selfies or Social Media: Dating in my book is like under-cover work, nobody should know your out under cover.
(E) Don’t Give Up: Unless the person I am dating is a physcho-path, I’ll try to ride it out no matter what.
(F) Coffee First Date: Unless otherwise, first date is usually coffee as this provides an easy get away for either party.